What Every First-Time Mama Needs to Know About Natural Birth (But No One Told Her)

You’ve probably read all the books, scrolled endlessly on Instagram, followed birth accounts, maybe even made a birth plan or joined a course.

You want it to be Natural, Magical and Powerful.

But here’s the truth: most of what first-time mamas are told about birth isn’t the whole story.

The maternity system doesn’t "hold space" for us to trust ourselves through pregnancy, birth and the postpartum.

It does the absolute opposite and put's itself as the expert over you and your baby.

Our culture doesn’t teach us to trust birth. 

Quite the opposite. It tells us its the most dangerous thing a woman can do.

And so, even when we want a natural birth, we’re often walking in blind without much knowledge and no support from the system or culture around us.

It's not an easy task!

Just wanting to have a natural birth as natures design intended these days is not enough.

You need to rewire your subconscious mind in believing it is possible for you after a life time of your culture and media programing the opposite into you.

So if you’re a first-time mama who feels the longing for a natural and empowering birth experience.

If you know in your bones that birth is much more than just a "medical event happening to you"…

This blog is for you.

Birth Isn’t Something You Do. It’s Something You Allow

Your body already knows how to birth.

Just like it knew how to grow your baby without you micromanaging every single cell, it also knows how to bring your baby into the world.

Natural birth isn’t about grit or control, it’s about surrender.

Active surrender.

Its not a passive or easy thing to do.

It's not a giving up kinda surrender but a "getting out of your thinking mind and into your wild, instinctual, body-led wisdom" kinda surrender.

You don’t need to force birth to happen.

You need to feel safe enough to let it happen through you.

You are the amazing, strong and powerful vessel that can birth LIFE!

The Environment You Birth In Matters (More Than You Think)

You are a mammal.

And just like a cat looks for a dark, safe, quiet place to birth, so do you.

If you feel watched, judged, interrupted, or rushed, your labor can stall.

It can even stop entirely.

If you feel safe, held and supported, your labor can flow.

Whether you're at home or in the hospital, make your birth space sacred.

Dim the lights.

Play soft music.

Use essential oils.

Bring someone who knows how to hold space and protect your energy.

Who you invite into your birth space will affect your birth.

That is a Fact!

Be very wise and careful of whom you invite into your sacred birthing space.

Pain Is Not the Enemy

Let’s reframe this right now: pain in birth is not like pain from injury.

It’s functional.

It’s purposeful.

It’s your body working hard to open, soften, and bring your baby earth side.

When you understand the physiology of birth, and you’re supported in your process, the pain becomes something you can ride, not something you need to fight.

With breath, sound, movement, and support, you’ll find your rhythm.

You don’t need to be afraid of the intensity.

Fear will actually create More Sensation of Pain.

You need to Trust that it’s working For You.

Even dare to Lean In to the Pain.

That is how you will move through it.

Remember "what you Resist Persists"...

The more you fear or tense against the birthing force coming through you, the more pain you will experience and for longer.

Dare to meet it and lean in.

Advocacy Is Not Optional

If you’re birthing in the system, you must have someone with you who knows how to advocate.

Not because the system is evil, but because it’s not designed to support physiological birth.

Hospital timelines, policies, and fear-based language can derail even the most natural-minded mama, unless someone is there to hold the line for you.

This might be your sacred birth worker, your doula, your private midwife, someone with extensive knowledge about birth and the system your birthing within, who understands your wishes and can protect your space when you’re in the zone.

You Can’t Plan Every Detail—But You Can Prepare

A birth plan is great, but what you really need is embodied preparation.

You need tools for nervous system regulation.

You need knowledge of birth physiology.

You need to understand your options and rights in the birth space.

You need practices that connect you to your baby, your intuition, and your breath.

And you need to practice these practices every day to make it an easily accessible tool in birth.

You can't just show up in labour and wing your coping mechanisms.

It needs to be something you do every day.

We Birth the way we Live.

If you live a disconnected life from your body, never meditate and have never practiced a breathing technique you won't excel at it in the throws of labour. 

Birth is unpredictable, but when you feel prepared, you can meet whatever comes your way with presence and power.

Don't wing it!

Prepare for it!

Birth Is a Rite of Passage, Not Just a Means to an End

You are not the same woman on the other side of birth.

Birth changes you.

It expands you.

It opens you to new dimensions of strength, love, and powerful surrender.

And when you walk through it consciously, it can be one of the most empowering, transformative experiences of your life.

No matter how your birth unfolds, when you are well prepared for the intensity and well informed by people you trust and well supported, you will come out the other side feeling powerful, no matter the birth.

This Is Why I Created The Natural Birth Course

Because every mama deserves to feel informed and supported as she prepares for birth.

The Natural Birth Course is a self-paced, holistic course that blends evidence-based education with spiritual preparation.

You’ll learn:

✨ The physiology of undisturbed birth
✨ How to navigate birth in all birth settings
✨ Tools for mindset, breathing, and embodiment
✨ How to prepare your partner to truly support you
✨ And how to claim your power as you birth your baby and your new self

You also get access to The Village, my online community with monthly live Q&As with our Village Midwife and where I support you directly.

This is birth preparation that goes beyond just “information.”

It’s about remembrance.

It’s about walking into birth fully connected to your body, your baby, and your truth.

You only birth your first baby once.

Please prepare for it to be Sacred.

🌿 Learn more here: The Natural Birth Course