Can You Be a Birth Worker if You’ve Never Had a Baby Yourself?

This is one of the most common questions I hear from women who have not had babies themselves

And one that often hides a deeper layer of self-doubt.

“Can I really support women in birth if I’ve never birthed myself?”
“Will they trust me?”
“Am I good enough?”

I hear you.
And I want to tell you, yes, you absolutely can.

Some of the best birth workers I know do not have children themselves. 

The Calling Comes First

It begins with a deep fascination with birth, a curiosity about what women’s bodies can do, a longing to be part of something sacred, ancient and real.

Some of the most gifted, intuitive, and transformative birth workers I’ve met have not given birth themselves.

Their strength lies in their ability to hold space, to truly listen, to witness, to trust the innate wisdom of women and birth, without projection, without comparison, without personal agenda.

Actually Not having given birth gives them the advantage of not projecting their own experience onto a woman.

Of course, personal experience of birth gives a deeper more embodied understanding.

But it doesn't automatically make you a good space holder for others going through birth. 

The “Not Enough” Story

Many women carry a subconscious belief that they must earn the right to belong in certain spaces.

But here’s the truth: this belief often mirrors a collective wound.

The "I am not enough" wound which will tell you you are not enough no matter what.

This is a wound mothers carry too.

And something that keeps them from following their longing to serve women in the birth portal too (believe it or not).

This belief is not rooted in truth and the only way to break through this detrimental self limiting belief is to decide to Not listen to it and dare to follow your dream anyways.

The only way through is through!

The Birth Portal is a Teacher

If you are drawn to birth work before having children of your own (or maybe you do not wish to have children), you have a unique opportunity to learn directly from the birth portal, from the women you serve, from their births, from the great mystery itself.

Every birth teaches you something new about life, creation, woman, surrender, trust, power, and presence.

It humbles you.

It grows you.

It births you, again and again, into deeper layers of wisdom.

What Truly Matters

What matters is not whether you’ve birthed a baby through your body, but whether you’ve birthed yourself through your own transformation.

Have you faced your own self? Your shadows?

Have you softened your judgments?

Called yourself out on your preconceived ideas?

Nurtured a Neutral Mind?

So you can be fully present and ego-less in the birth room?

Can you hold another woman in her wild, primal, uncontrollable moment without needing to change, fix or manage her?

That is what makes a good birth worker.

A Path of Devotion

So if you feel the call, trust it.

Don’t let the “not a mother yet” story keep you small.

Birth work is a lifelong apprenticeship to life itself.

You will grow. You will evolve.

You will continue to be initiated by this path in ways you can’t yet imagine.

You are enough, right now, as you are.

And if this work calls your heart, that’s reason enough to begin.

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If you feel that stirring within, the one that whispers you’re meant to walk beside women through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum, The Sacred Birth Worker Mentorship is here to guide you on that journey.